They say “show me your friends and I will tell you who you are”? A very controversial topic indeed.
Most people in our society believe in this.
Have you ever been in some sort of gathering with a friend of a ‘questionable reputation or character’? Did the people present automatically put you in the same category as your friend? You know! With the side eyes,silly innuendos,etc.
Do you remember as a child, your parents(mums mostly) telling you never to hang out with a particular friend,because he/she has a ‘bad’ character?
Well, as an adult, you have a choice. Sure, you have your reasons for sticking around – “Oh, she has a good heart, oh! he is not really like that,oh! you don’t know him/her like I do”.
That’s very good of you. You are sticking up for your friend. You are loyal!
However, its important to check yourself and your principles,your morals. Are they being affected by your friend?
Its easy for a person’s behavior, morals(good or bad) to rub off on another and vice versa. And this happens subconsciously. Keyword – Subconsciously.
You might be like , “huh?”. Yes! You can find yourself discarding your own principles and emulating someone else’s without even knowing it.
Your principles,beliefs, morals become obsolete. Especially if you are around that friend a lot. An indirect form of peer pressure perhaps!
You begin to act,talk and think like him/her/them. “Birds of the same feather flock together”. Welcome to the flock.
Your willpower,spirituality might not be able to save you. Sometimes!
Even the bible has a verse on this, “…..it can not be done. How can right and wrong be partners?How can light and darkness live together?”-Corinthians 6:14.
Half the decisions or choices you make will be influenced by the company you keep, directly or indirectly.
So what should you do in this situation? Its your choice. Its okay to still be friends,but the depth to your friendship is entirely up to you. You can choose to ‘manage’ your friend, even if your reputation and morals are at stake. You can be their voice of reason – there to help them see the bad in what the do and say.
He/she is your friend after all, so deal with it. Or you can end the friendship.
But first, you must ask yourself, ‘Am I changing?’ For the good or for the worse? Remember, it is okay to put yourself first too.
“Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are”. Do you agree or disagree? Comment below.